Marriage changes a person’s life. Some changes are drastic and others come in slowly, helping you to adjust to them. Even if you adjust to changes openly and happily, at times the memories of past still make you nostalgic.
Eid-ul-Fitr is an event that is celebrated my Muslims across the globe, marking the end of the Holy month of Ramadan.
There is a world of difference between the Eid for me before and after marriage.
Below I am sharing the joys of Eid before and after my marriage.
Eid Before Marriage
The Eid preparations have been usually completed before the Ramadan starts. The mehndi part is always left for Chaand Raat. As soon as the moon sightening is announced, I remember I would get the space ready so that mehndi can be applied on my hands and feet.
Then I will check whether everything (the Eid dress, choorian, sandals) are all ready and set to wear and then its time to sleep, so that early in the morning I will be fresh. But the excitement of the three days ahead and the expected Eidi counting keeps us siblings awake. 😀 Those days.
Early in the morning we would shower, get dressed. The gents go for Eid prayer and we would normally wait for them to return so that we can have the delicious traditional nashta (breakfast). All the uncles and their families gathered at our place for breakfast. The breakfast normally included siwaiyyan (vermicillies), sheer khurma , kachri ka keema, dahi barey and other snacks.
Then Eidi time starts!!! The most awaited time of all! We would cry with joy, collecting Eidi, counting it and saving it from the inncoent-but-so-evil eyes of younger siblings and cousins.
Meeting relatives is a part of the festive occassion. So the families usually unite at one place or go from one relative to another to share the joy of the event. Our three days were filled with being entertained as well as entertaining guests, talking, comparing Eidi , eating and playing.
The days end so soon leaving us exhausted and well satisfied. 😀
Eid After Marriage
The Chaand Raat calls for action!! The next-day breakfast preparation, the presentation of the house, changing sheets and curtains. Getting the dinner and lunch half-ready so it can be served quickly are all part of the Chaand Raat and the day Channd Raat is expected.
Eidi becomes a thing that is given only as one is now a grownup. 😦 Some gentle people do think of us as well as give us Eidi too, which is mostly forwarded to someone else as Eidi from us.
The Eid morning is full of chaos at times. You need to get up get dressed in Eid clothes, get our better half up and helping them to be ready before Eid prayer, setting the table, receiving guests. Whoa! The fun chaos.
After breakfast its Eidi time for kids and then people here usually sleep. Period.
We do go out to meet relatives but its very rare and the number of people we go to are also countable.
The real joy of Eid is usually felt when we invite our sister-in-law for dinner at our place. That day feels like Eid.
There is a remarkable difference in the Edi celebrations between the two phases of life for me. And I do miss the hustle and bustle of the days during this festive occassion. Have you experienced how events are celebrated at your inlaws and parents places? Feel free to share your experiences below in comments.